Andy Cooke:
Where do you draw the earliest line when it comes to cheating? (e.g. showing
interest in another person, having an intimate dream of someone else, having a
coffee date with an 'old friend', kissing).
ColorStorm:
God it bothers me that every single person answering this question is just
detailing when this or that is appropriate or inappropriate / cheating or not
cheating, etc., and nobody actually has the character to go against the herd
and think outside the box and realize that concept of cheating itself is a
farce.. if I love someone, and what makes them happy is to kiss another guy (or
girl), then I'm happy for them. Or even if I'm not, I'm not going to immaturely
consider it immoral for them to go against my wishes and
my ego and to actualize my fears.. it's so freakin immature
and primitive and petty, this paradigm that we consider normal for
relationships, where each person selfishly imposes rules on the other person
out of fear.
You know, this is exactly why relationships never last, because of this mentality that there's something you're getting from the other person and that it's all tit-for-tat. It all leads to disappointment, because the other person can never be everything you demand of them. And it goes hand-in-hand with the making of these petty rules each other has to follow. The system is almost neurotic in its small-mindedness and completely lacks any kind of reflection or self-awareness or call to self-actualization. It's just the kind of system you'd find in a hell such as this planet. It's also plays an integral role in the ridiculous amount of drama that is associated with romantic relationships, especially between less mature / more "basic" couples.
I don't understand why I have to be alone in this world. Why am I the only truly thinking person?
Andy Cooke:
How come you don't believe in those concepts? (what do you mean by it?)
ColorStorm:
People shouldn't restrict whom their s/o has romantic, sensual or sexual
relations with, that kind of restriction is just the product of fear, ego and
possessiveness
Pure love would want the other to be happy and would give them the freedom to do whatever they want that would make them happy
This principle of possessiveness goes hand-in-hand with the fact that in relationships people are generally all about what they can get from the other person
that's why there's always unfulfillable demands put on the other to make them happy, and why there's so much drama in relationships and why they always end bitterly